Romantic love is magical. However, when then the love is not sustained, it can be terribly sad, like a death. So be very careful and always have the strength to move on whenever you go through a certain situation like this.
Here are 10 ways to fix a broken heart from Joyce Marter, a psychotherapist. And I really hope that after you read all her recommendations, you will never be afraid to love and to love again...
1) Know your love and feelings were genuine. Just because it didn't last a lifetime doesn't mean it wasn't real or true. You're not crazy, foolish, wrong or delusional.
2) Recognize love is always a gift. Love is a blessing even if it finishes painfully, for heartbreak bears great wisdom.
3) Consider that all things happen for a reason. As the saying goes, "Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness." A relationship that ends is not a mistake or failure.
4) Focus in the present. Don't reflect about the past or second guess your actions. Don't worry about the future. Stay out of your head, for that is a dangerous place to go. Practice mindfulness techniques like deep breathing and meditation. Imagine breathing in what you need (strength, hope, energy) and out what you don't (pain, aches, sadness).
5) Release feelings of anger, hatred and thoughts of revenge. Understand this are all connected to ego and cause you more destruction than good. Anger aggravates anxiety and depression, keeps us tied and prevents us from moving forward. As Nelson Mandela said, "Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies." In a moment of quiet, repeat the mantra, "I forgive and release you and let you go."
6) Let go of the connection. As Mark Twain said, "Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option." Care enough about yourself to conserve your energy for those who deserve it, starting with yourself!
7) Get support. Talk to friends and family who are empathic and kind. Tell them specifically what you need from them. If your friends are tired of your broken record, consider therapy or a support group. Get immediate help if feeling so depressed you are suicidal.
8) Know you are lovable. Sometimes people aren't capable of giving us the love we need and deserve, which is their issue and not yours. You are exactly as you should be and are perfectly lovable just the way you are.
9) Practice self-love. As Buddha said, "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." Stick to structure and routine and get proper rest, nutrition and exercise. Don't isolate yourself or your depression will take a deeper hold on you.
10) Know this too shall pass. Time will heal your wounds. Even if you can't imagine feeling better or being open to love again, you most certainly will.
